Sisters, I am challenging myself and challenging you too: Let’s stop comparing and start celebrating this glorious life that the Lord has so graciously blessed us with!
Unfortunately, we are all so guilty of comparing ourselves and circumstances to others; and lately, I think I have been the worst offender.
I used to be a homesteading (this is one of my favorite homesteading bloggers) and preparedness blogger. I wasn’t highly successful, but the blog did okay and I was coming up and growing daily when the Lord called me to Liberty University. I knew I couldn’t do well in school, take care of my family, nurture my relationship with my husband, keep growing in my faith – and keep the blog going – so I shut it down.
When I felt the tug to get back to writing – because I absolutely love to write and encourage others – I prayed long and hard that God’s hand would be in every part of Every Chain Broken. I do not want to do anything or be anywhere that the Lord is not with me (Exodus 33:15). The Lord made it clear that this was not a race. I needed to take my time and keep my relationship with Him, my husband and my children as my very first priorities. I was going to have to take this slow – if I only posted once a week, then once a week it was. I wasn’t going to get caught up in numbers: the shares, the followers, the likes or the comments. I was going to share my heart – what I learned, what I knew to be true, my struggles and my praises. And God was going to get all the glory for it.
However, I did get caught up in the numbers. I began comparing Every Chain Broken with my past blog. I found myself comparing how fast others grew their following to how slow I was growing mine. And I began comparing my knowledge with that of others.
How often do we all do this very same thing?
We compare our abilities, our spouses, our careers, our income, our possessions, our children, our entire lives to someone else’s life. We look upon another woman and think, “If only I had her (fill in the blank), then maybe XYZ would be different and God could use me in that area.”
Sisters, I do the same exact thing and I have almost my entire life. But when we do that, when we allow ourselves to compare who we are – who God made us to be with who God made someone else to be – we are quite literally throwing His work, His blessings, His gifts right back in His face. We are telling God that we don’t really like who He made us to be. We don’t like the life He chose for us to experience or the opportunities He’s provided for us. We are telling Him that we don’t like His blessings, that they aren’t good enough, expensive enough, pretty enough or popular enough for us.
Psalm 139:13 says: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.”
Friends, God did not just choose our hair color, eye color, height, and weight. He carefully, painstakingly knit everything that we are: our talents, our skills, our choices, our decisions, our likes and dislikes, our personalities – every single thing that makes us who we are, our Heavenly Father intentionally and with great care knit into us. God intentionally and purposefully made you and me exactly the way we are, because He wanted one of us for Himself. God knew that you being who you are, living the life you are living, made you more valuable to Him than you being someone else.
David knew this very well and in the next verse, we see exactly what this “Man after God’s own heart” really thought about all this.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
My chin about hit the floor when the Lord showed me that David was not talking about the creation of the world here. No, David was talking about himself! David, despite the fact that he was a shepherd boy, who wasn’t even worthy to be called by name when the Lord anointed him to be king (1 Samuel 16:7-12), knew that he was wonderful, valuable, and some translations say remarkable! Despite his situation, his sins, his short-comings, David did not compare himself to a single human being on this planet.
David knew who he was in God’s sight because he knew God created him, and David praised God for it. He didn’t compare, or complain, instead, David praised God. Had David been a comparer and complainer, he would have never been able to take Goliath out and change Israel’s course.
Can you imagine all God could do through us if we were like David and praised God for who He created us to be?
This was a pretty big revelation for me. I have been a people pleasing, comparing, complaining crybaby my whole life. I have always worried what others thought of me and have always looked at my life thinking, “There should just be so much more to this!” How shamefully weak and ungrateful of me.
This was the kicker for me though:
“Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The days that were appointed for me,
When as yet there was not one of them [even taking shape].”
Psalm 139:16 AMP
“And in your book were all written; The days that were appointed for me, when as yet there was not one of them [even taking shape].” Psalm 139:16b
Every single thing that I’ve been ungrateful for, complaining and whining about…..God chose for me; and here I was, telling Him, the Creator of the universe, the Master Artist that paints beautiful sunrises and sunsets, that when He knit me and wrote down my life in His book, that it wasn’t good enough.
How extraordinarily humbling.
Friends, God wants us to flourish in the lives He has blessed us with, right where we are. He wants us to embrace who we are and the gifts and talents He has graciously bestowed to our care (1 Peter 4:10). He wants us to embrace His Truths and live our lives in such a way that regardless of what we have or don’t have: we are joyful, content, and full of peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). He wants us to praise Him and be thankful that He has given us such a life because honestly, He didn’t have to. He could have just wiped us all out; but instead, in His gracious mercy, He lavishes us with grace upon grace (Ephesians 1:8; John 1:16). He draws us close to Him and He whispers to our hearts, “You are fearfully and wonderfully made because I created you and you are My child.”
So, let’s stop comparing and start celebrating this life that the Lord chose for us. Let us start embracing each moment as an opportunity to show the world that we are Daughters of the King, who created us and chose us for Himself.
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